People Pleasing & Boundaries
People Pleasing
Putting oneself aside to keep the peace or hide can leave a person confused and in a perpetual place of unhappiness wrought with feelings such as:
- Loneliness
- Feeling uncared for or unimportant
- Overwhelmed
- Angry
- Resentful
- Confused
- Drowning
- Unappreciated
- Unable to make decisions
- Low self-esteem
Together, we can gain awareness about where these tendencies originate so that you can hold compassion for yourself and the effects people-pleasing is having on you. With new awareness, you’ll begin honoring your needs without guilt while still showing up for others in ways they actually need you to.
Boundary Setting
Boundaries are what keep relationships healthy and safe. A lack of boundaries can be dangerous and lays the groundwork for losing a sense of self and turning to aggressive ways of relating. Often times, people trade personal boundaries to prevent imagined loss, rejection, or abandonment which can lead to feelings and experiences such as:
- Anger
- Resentment
- Dread
- Irritability and Edginess
- Feeling “run over” or taken advantage of
- Being manipulated or used
- Losing touch with the self
It can be difficult to honor what feels right for you due to fears of rejection by important others. Boundaries can also feel selfish, which makes them scary. Together we can help you create boundaries that will be uncomfortable at first, but in the long run will allow you to feel fulfillment and peace within yourself and your relationships.